There’s a verse in the Bible that’s been misunderstood for centuries:
“Therefore confess your sins to each other […] so that you may be healed.” — James 5:16
Most people assume this is about forgiveness.
It’s not.
It’s about healing. The last word of the verse is “healed.”
We once attended a seminar where we were asked to write down all our sexual experiences: from basic stuff to the wild ones. We didn’t know what’s gonna happen. Then we were invited to read them aloud.
It was one of the most uncomfortable things we have ever done. 🙈 We don’t recommend it.
And yet… something happened.
As each person spoke, we realized something surprising.
Everyone had done 90% of the same things. The remaining 10% were neither significant nor relevant.
We thought we’re the only ones who did xyz or thought about abc. In reality it was everybody.
When you confess your “sins” to others you create the opportunity for them to say “I did that too” or “I did something similar.”
That’s reflective awareness.
Reflective awareness is healing.
Deflective awareness is illness.
Next time when you judge something (-) or admire something (+), ask yourself, “When and Where I did the same thing?” or “How do I express the same behavior in my own way?”.
Keep answering these questions at least 25 times, until you see you do the same. That’s one of the fastest ways to calm down the judgement.
There are no mistakes in the universe,
Monica and Stefan
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